Think back to instances when you've faced your anxiety and it's turned out well. The next way to help yourself deal with the uncertainty of those first few dates is to reframe your anxiety.Often anxiety takes center stage and it feels overwhelming, so it's hard to pay attention to the rest of your feelings.And dating, for all its glory, is rife with uncertainty.After all, you are getting to know one another and it's uncertain if you will have a connection or not. With a singular vision towards the future, a clear preference for efficient time investment and in-born introversion an INTJ might be reluctant, skeptical or choose to avoid dating altogether. It’s ironic, of all of the types an INTJ might be one of the more romantic.In selecting a partner in their mind, it is a fixed vision.Often the relationship seems to start out well, with an intense emotional attraction leading to a deeply felt (but in reality, superficial) connection.
This person might go from one ill-fated relationship to the next or avoid romantic and sexual relationships altogether — usually for a finite period (weeks, months or years), though occasionally he or she swears off relationships forever.There is only committed or uninterested and seldom a middle ground.In studying the male INTJs I know, all of them met their life partner later in life, after the full force of their individual vision had come to the fore.There are a number of reasons why the INTJ type struggles in dating, each feeding into the next.Naturally, teenagers and twenty-somethings will find more difficulty as their connection to Feeling is still in development.